Advice

Thought I'd share a bunch of the advice that has so freely been given to me with regards to my upcoming nuptials. Alot of this stuff is gold, some of it I've got no worries about, but I figured I'd amass all of it in one spot for reference in the future.

Warning, some advice that was given to me was with regards to *gasp* SEX. Read on if you dare.

General
- It's okay to spend time apart from each other and have other interests.
- Ask yourself: Do I want to be right, or do I want to be happy?
- If you've had a bad day, don't dump on your spouse.
- Always make a point of showing interest in your spouse's activities.
- Each time something bothers you, ask whether it's worth a fight - even if you don't think it will start one.

Communication
- Talk to each other openly, every day
- Talk about your problems rather than letting them slide, or leaving passive-aggressive notes
- Don't ever say "I don't care." Make a decision so that your spouse knows that you're involved in the decision making process
- When you're happy, let your spouse know. When you're upset, let them know. Don't ever just react - explain.
- Get used to apologizing even though you don't think you've done anything wrong -- find out why your spouse is angry and apologize for that, then really try hard not to do the same thing again
- When it comes to arguments/differences of opinion: Always think it through a bit and see how you feel after a hour or so.

Romance
- Don't forget to be romantic, even after years.
- Show appreciation for your spouse every day

House Life
- Figure out what you're going to do for chores; Talk to each other about what each person's tasks will be and divide them up as you see fair.
- If you see your spouse cleaning up, offer to help
- If your spouse offers to help with cleaning up, propose something for them to do
- Pick up after yourself

Finances
- Make sure you and your spouse are aware of all debt that will be brought into the marriage
- Make sure you and your spouse are both involved in financial decisions
- Try hard not to argue about money
- Discuss payments. Decide who is going to be responsible for paying the bills.

Sex
- Sex will probably not be very good the first time
- Take it slow
- Lube is your friend
- Extensive foreplay is your friend
- Have a sense of humour about it
- Find out ahead of time if your spouse is allergic to latex

Wedding
- Sit down and eat. It's your Wedding, you deserve to enjoy a meal.